Mother’s Day is around the corner! It is a lovely holiday for us to show appreciation for our mothers and acknowledge all their sacrifices. However, things get complicated once you have married and became a mother.
You have your mother, your mother-in-law, and you are a mother too! And there are maybe even some grandmothers, godmothers and nannies.
How are you going to celebrate with all the mothers in your life? You want to spend this special day with your kids and husband but you don’t want to upset any of the mothers. Of course, it would be ideal if you could celebrate with all the mothers together. The more the merrier, isn’t it?
Well, most of the time, it ISN’T.
Your mother and mother-in-law may not necessary get along well with each other, even they do they may have different preferences.
If you are not the only child, your siblings may want to celebrate the day with your mother too!
So, unless both you and your husband are the only child in the family, both of your mothers like each other a lot, and they like the same cuisine, or else having all the mothers to celebrate the holiday together most probably wouldn’t be a good idea.
Stressed! You know someone would feel that she was being left out if you didn’t handle it properly.
Now, what can we do to avoid any unpleasant feelings from all the mothers?
#1 Discuss with Your Husband in Advance
Before Mother’s Day comes, talk to your husband and children about the day. Explore all the options on how to celebrate the day, make decision and tell the respective mothers about the plan. Although it will be less surprising, but at least you get to celebrate Mother’s Day with all the mothers, no one get disappointed.
#2 Don’t be One-sided
This is so so so important. If you couldn’t make to celebrate with all the mothers on Sunday, then just avoid celebrating with any of them on Sunday. Avoid going on vacation with only one of them. Avoid anything that will make anyone feels unfair.
#3 Pick an Alternative Date
To be frank, Mother’s Day is a non-religious (although the founder is Christian), human-created holiday. The only reason that makes us feel like we MUST celebrate the day with mothers is because it has been over-commercialized.
In fact, it is more meaningful to show your appreciations to your mother during your birthday! It is the anniversary of her delivering you to the world.
If your mother agreed, you can make it the Mother’s Day between you and her. Both you and your husband can do this, then you can celebrate the International Mother’s Day with your own children.
Anyway, you still need to at least call your mother to wish them Happy Mother’s Day even though you celebrate on an alternative date.
#4 Always Show Appreciation to Mothers
Mothers sacrifice a lot for their children. Your mother takes care of you every day since the day you were born. How could you only thank her once a year! No matter how busy you are, please spend some quality times with your mother more often. Take her to enjoy a nice spa, have a nice dinner, or simply stay at home with her watching her favourite show together anytime.
Every mother loves her children, unconditionally.
Show your love to all the mothers in your life, before it’s too late.